Monday, December 11, 2023

Change the World: Do not send your kids to public school


 I've written a few blog posts in the past about public school. It has been a few years and things have not gotten better. Public schools are only getting worse.  Now more then ever, public school should be avoided whenever possible.


To Christian Families:

If you want to change the world for the better, do not send your kids to public school.  This is a very controversial statement to some people and a very common sense statement to others.  Based on numbers and observations, public schools exist to poorly educate your children while also shaping their worldview (beliefs and values) to be contrary to the Christian faith.  If you think public school is good, useful, or even neutral, then you need to watch the videos from Voddie Baucham Jr.

 Many public school libraries are starting to be stocked with obscene books. In some states it is a crime for an adult to hand one of those books to a minor, but if you put it in the school library it is ok.

If you want the next generation of leaders to be smarter and to have more moral character based in strong biblical foundations of truth, do not send your kid to public school.

Most people think these extreme things do not happen at their kid's school, but most people are wrong.  For the few that might be right, it is just a matter of time. Also, even if zero crazy progressive things are be shoved down their throats, public school is still a humanist outreach institution were more than half will probably not be able to read,write, or do math above at a high-school level.

"When you send your kids to Caesar, do not be surprised when they come back Romans."

Why Christians Lose 88% of Their Children | Voddie Baucham (highlights video)


This is a great and relevant podcast episode:


To learn more about the roots of public school watch the full video.

Full Video:  Voddie Baucham Jr. - The Children of Caesar Part 1

Full Video:  Voddie Baucham Jr. - The Children of Caesar Part 2

What does it mean to be a Christian?


What does it mean to be a Christian?

Christianity is a word. Like most words, it has a specific meaning. It's true that some words can have their meaning change over time, but the word Christianity is not supposed to be one of them. Christian is the word used to describe people who follow Jesus of Nazareth and believe what he believed about God, himself, and reality.

Jesus lived on earth during the early first century AD. His followers (like myself) believe that he was God in human form who died for the sin of humans, and rose from the dead before ascending back to heaven. Followers also believe that Jesus' disciples and other biblical authors (who were eyewitnesses or interviewed eyewitnesses) accurately recorded the things that Jesus said and did. Other Christian manuscripts describing first-century people and events were also created. The manuscripts about Jesus and the manuscripts about his first-century followers have been assembled into what we now call the Bible. The New Testament to be more specific. There have not been any credible additions to the Bible that Christians universally accept for many centuries. Most protestants do not accept any books written later than the book of Revelation (circa. 90-95 AD) as holy scripture.

Why am I going over this brief history of the New Testament? The New Testament is how we know what Jesus said and did. It is significantly more detailed than any other documents written about Jesus by people of that time period. If being a Christian means following Jesus then knowing what Jesus said and did is of the utmost importance. The New Testament is the only reliable record that allows us to determine what Jesus said and did. The New Testament has not had any additions for a very long time. This would also mean that details about what Jesus said and did also have not changed. So why do we have new "Christian" movements from time to time?

Does the meaning of being a Christian (follower of Jesus) change? Are humans discovering new details about Jesus in our modern era? Were there parts of the new testament nobody read until recently? I think the answer to these questions is no but let us dive a little deeper.



Modern Groups

If you were to make some observations in the past and again today you might think the answer to the above questions is yes. Today If you compare the beliefs of various groups that use the word Christian (to varying degrees) you will find a very diverse and sometimes conflicting set of beliefs. Groups like Mormons (LDS), Jehova Witnesses, Christian Universalist, and modern churches that sometimes use the label "progressive Christian" all have some beliefs that incorporate God, Jesus, and the Bible to varying degrees. These beliefs often look very different and conflict with traditional Christianity. Where do these new beliefs come from and why are they associated with Christianity?


False Teachers and Theological Drift

If a Christian group's understanding of God changes, then their beliefs will begin to slowly change (i.e. drift) in a different direction. A person's understanding of God is often called Theology (the study of God). Proper theology requires a reliable source that contains details about God (i.e. the Bible). My observations lead me to believe that most people with theological drift are getting their theology from people instead of the Bible. The bible hasn't changed so new ideas are not coming from there. The people they follow claim to be Christian and to be experts on the Bible, but they convince you (often without you noticing) to decrease any value you place on the Bible and to increase the value you place on their views about God (or your own internal thoughts and feelings) . Essentially replacing the authority that defines being a Christian from the Bible to a limited human being (or group of humans). Limited because no one person or group of people can have a complete (or anywhere even close) understanding of reality. We make the change of getting our view of Jesus not from people who saw and knew Jesus but from the opinions of people who lived 2000 years later. The phrase often used to describe this type of influencer is "false teacher".

[2 Peter 1:6, 2 Peter 2:1]

The phrase false prophet can apply at times as well. Jesus himself warned of false prophets: “Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly are ravenous wolves.” -- Matthew 7:15

Do we need a reliable Bible to be a Christian?

In my opinion, elevating (giving more weight, value, or importance) the ideas of man and lowering (decreasing priority, value, or importance) the Bible is not just a bad idea, but is also self-destructive to the very definition of being a Christian (Christ follower). The Bible contains the record of what Jesus did. If we doubt what he said and did then what exactly are we claiming to follow? If we are picking and choosing what parts of the Bible to accept and follow, then are we following Jesus or just a pseudo-Jesus shaped by our own opinions and desires? How can a Christian with a low view of the Bible engage in debate with another Christian about the nature of following Jesus? Any Bible passage mentioned that makes your position look incorrect can be discarded with a simple response, "I don't accept that portion of the Bible!" Essentially setting up a situation where a Christian with a low view of the Bible can believe almost any falsehood that they like without any means for finding the truth and correcting course.

Is the Bible inerrant?

Do we have to believe the Bible is 100% error free to be a Christian and receive salvation from sins? No. There is clear biblical evidence for this (thief on the cross, Jesus forgiving sins of blind man, etc…). This does not mean it is smart to have a low view of the bible and only accept 86% of the bible as accurate! This would allow someone to shift anything they don't want to believe anymore from the 86% to the 14% side whenever they desire. It robs the bible of its critical role of correcting us with authority. Its ability to help us find the path when we are lost. If someone cannot accept biblical inerrancy but they still want to have a coherent view of Christianity then they will need to believe the bible is nearly error free. A belief that the bible is almost error-free allows one (who doesn’t accept biblical inerrancy) to acknowledge that the bible may have a few problems but it can still be the reliable record we need about how to follow Jesus. It would still have a high enough position to guide us and correct any false beliefs that may have snuck in.

What Now?

The next section will reference the bible many times in order to make a case for what Jesus said, did, and believed. If you don't believe the Bible is reliable, then using the bible as an authority will have no weight with you. This is kind of the point that I am making. If the bible isn't what you use to define following Jesus (being a Christian) then what is? How can you make any coherent claims about Jesus? If this describes you and you consider yourself a Christian, then I recommend considering the points below while setting aside your negative thoughts about the bible for a little while.

Following the real Jesus

If we want to understand what being a Christian means, then we should review what Jesus said, commanded, did, and believed. 

Jesus had an extremely high view of scripture:

But he answered, “It is written, “‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’” Matthew 4:4

Jesus said to him, “Again it is written, ‘You shall not put the Lord your God to the test.’” Matthew 4:7

Then Jesus said to him, “Be gone, Satan! For it is written, “‘You shall worship the Lord your God and him only shall you serve.’” Matthew 4:10

“If he called them gods to whom the word of God came—and Scripture cannot be broken—” John 10:35

Jesus said to them, “Have you never read in the Scriptures: ...” Matthew 21:42

“But all this has taken place that the Scriptures of the prophets might be fulfilled.” Then all the disciples left him and fled.” Matthew 26:56

“ Jesus said to them, “Is this not the reason you are wrong, because you know neither the Scriptures nor the power of God? …” Mark 12:24

“ For I tell you that this Scripture must be fulfilled in me: ‘And he was numbered with the transgressors.’ For what is written about me has its fulfillment.” Luke 22:37

“And beginning with Moses and all the Prophets, he interpreted to them in all the Scriptures the things concerning himself.” Luke 24:27

44 Then he said to them, “These are my words that I spoke to you while I was still with you, that everything written about me in the Law of Moses and the Prophets and the Psalms must be fulfilled.” 45 Then he opened their minds to understand the Scriptures, 46 and said to them, “Thus it is written, that the Christ should suffer and on the third day rise from the dead, Luke 24: 44

Other references to Jesus mentioning scripture: Matthew 22:32 Mark 12:26 Mark 11:17 Mark 14:21 Mark 14:27 Luke 10:26

Jesus believed he was separate from, one with, and equal to God. *

*Yes, those do seem contradictory, that is why the trinity is a core Christian belief. It is the not fully comprehensible (understandable) reconciliation of those statements.

Jesus said to them, “Truly, truly, I say to you, before Abraham was, I am.” -- John 8:58

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through him, and without him was not anything made that was made. In him was life, and the life was the light of men. … And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth. -- John 1:1-4, 14

“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit” -- Matthew 28:19

Also, see Hebrews 1.

For more info on the Trinity, (since there is too much to include here). See this article:

Jesus commanded us to love God and others. He cared about everyone:

“For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.” --Matthew 25:31-46

“The most important one,” answered Jesus, “is this: ‘Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” --Mark 12:29-31

Jesus believed he was the only way to heaven and he was the one who will judge mankind:

Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die;
--John 11:25

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” --John 14:6

“Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him.” --John 3:36

“Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.” --John 3:18

“When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, then he will sit on his glorious throne. Before him will be gathered all the nations, and he will separate people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats.” --Matthew 25:31-46

“Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.” -- Matthew 7:13-14

“Truly, truly, I say to you, if anyone keeps my word, he will never see death.” -- John 8:51

“So everyone who acknowledges me before men, I also will acknowledge before my Father who is in heaven, but whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven.” --Matthew 10:32-33

Jesus cared about the truth:

Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” --John 14:6

"You say that I am a king. For this purpose I was born and for this purpose I have come into the world—to bear witness to the truth. Everyone who is of the truth listens to my voice.” -- John 18:33-38

John 4:21–24 (LEB): Jesus said to her, “Believe me, woman, that an hour is coming when neither on this mountain nor in Jerusalem will you worship the Father. You worship what you do not know. We worship what we know, because salvation is from the Jews. But an hour is coming—and now is here—when the true worshipers will worship the Father in spirit and truth, for indeed the Father seeks such people to be his worshipers. God is spirit, and the ones who worship him must worship in spirit and truth.”

Jesus spent time with sinners so he could share the truth with them to bring them spiritual healing (rightness before God) that goes beyond physical needs:

Then all the tax collectors and the sinners drew near to Him to hear Him. And the Pharisees and scribes complained, saying, “This Man receives sinners and eats with them.” -- Luke 15

The Samaritan Woman at the well. John 4.

“Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners.” This saying is true, and it can be trusted. I was the worst sinner of all! -- 1 Timothy 1:15 CEV

Other passages about Jesus and sinners: Luke 7

Jesus said sin had an eternal consequence:

This commentary is relevant:

“Don’t fear those who kill the body,” Jesus said, “rather fear Him who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell” (Matt 10:28; see also 5:29-30; 23:15,33; Luke 10:15; 16:23). Commenting on Jesus’ teaching about an “eternal punishment” (Matt. 25:46), John Broadus wrote: “It is to the last degree improbable that the Great Teacher would have used an expression so inevitably suggesting a great doctrine he did not mean to teach.” According to Jesus, hell is real.

What Do All These Statements from Jesus mean?

If we don't do or say or believe the way Jesus did, then we are not followers of Jesus regardless of what we think or what label we apply to ourselves. If we do believe and behave like Jesus in a few areas but ignore many other areas, then we are a Christian (Jesus follower) but we are a poor shadow not properly reflecting the one we claim to follow. We may even do damage to how outsiders view Jesus and what they think it means to be a Christian.

Didn't humans write the Bible?

Yes and no. Traditional Christian doctrine (teaching) is that God wrote the Bible through the human authors that God selected. This is called the inspiration of scripture. Why would people believe that words written by humans are actually the words of God?! Now you are asking the right question. This is the most important question someone trying to understand God and the claims of Christianity can ask. If the bible is just a great work of historical literature written by man, then we can glean what we want about Jesus and discard anything we don’t like. If the bible is the word of God, then it is literally the most important collection of documents in the world. Strangely, most Christians and skeptics talk about the bible plenty, but they rarely investigate the supernatural claims made by Christians about the bible. Investigating this fully is beyond the scope of this post, but there are many good books on this. Have you read any of them or did you discard the Bible without giving it a chance? How many books have you read on other less important topics?

Here are some passages about scripture from the writers of the scriptures:

Knowing this first of all, that no prophecy of Scripture comes from someone's own interpretation. For no prophecy was ever produced by the will of man, but men spoke from God as they were carried along by the Holy Spirit. -- 2 Peter 1:20-21

All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work. -- 2 Timothy 3:16-17

Recommended Book List:

7 Reasons Why You Can Trust the Bible - Amazon
Putting Jesus in His Place: The Case for the Deity of Christ - Amazon
Our God is Triune - Amazon
Canon Revisited: Establishing the Origins and Authority of the New Testament Books - Amazon
How we got the Bible by Neil Lightfoot - Amazon

Who is your Authority ?

If your views of God have been shaped more by humans than by the Bible, then you need to ask yourself a few questions: Why do I place so much value on human opinion? How do I know they are right and the Bible is wrong? Have I thoroughly researched the veracity of the Bible and found it without merit? How many books on the reliability of the New Testament manuscripts have I read and considered their claims? Do I rely too much on my own subjective feelings when I interpret reality?


The New testament text has not and should not be expanded to include every modern idea that people wish it to include. God does not change. The Bible does not change. Jesus does not change. Following Jesus is very difficult to do well but the way to follow Jesus does not change. If none of these things have changed then any modern cultural or church ideas or beliefs that conflict with the Biblical Jesus are not Christian beliefs. They are man-made claims masquerading as Christian beliefs.

The proper role of the Bible in a Christian's life is the role of final authority. It is the primary guide for a Christian. It is the revealer of bad ideas. It is the exposer of false beliefs. It corrects us and grows us. It challenges us and pushes us out of our comfort zone. It is the light in a world full of darkness.

A final scripture verse to end with:

And they said, “Some say John the Baptist, others say Elijah, and others Jeremiah or one of the prophets.” He said to them, “But who do you say that I am?” Simon Peter replied, “You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.”
--Matthew 16:14-16

Thursday, September 9, 2021

My Advice To Young People (Or What I Would Tell My Younger Self)


Note: If you are reading this and you are not a Christian don't worry!  You can still apply many of the ideas to your life. Also, getting to know the creator of the universe is strongly recommended!


Finish High-school and get married, before kids

Finishing High-school and getting married before you have children.  This one piece of advice has shown to have better outcomes for families and for family finances.

Get Married to the Right Person

A lot of people get married to the wrong person or they don't get married at all.  I recommend that you do get married and that you take marriage seriously enough to very selective about who you marry.  Many of you will get the wrong idea from this statement. What I mean is waiting until you find someone who shares your values. This is crucial. Much more important than someone who is attractive or has similar interests.

Related Post: Marriage is Hard, Especially if you start one without being prepared!

School / Career

Do Not Go Broke for a Degree

Unless you are rich, I recommend you get a two year degree for reasonable amount of money. Then get a job so you can pay for a four year degree. Don't know what you want to get a degree in? Then you are not ready for college yet. Do not get a four year degree in some random thing just because the world says you are worthless unless you have a four year degree. (or Masters degree or PhD)

Education with Focus

Focus your education on finding something you are interested in AND that will pay the bills.  If you have to pick one or the other, then pick paying the bills. You can always start a hobby or side business doing what you love.  Paying your bills first may be the gateway to doing what you love.  Where as the other approach of not paying your bills, does not normally let you do what you love.

Find a Job You Love

If you find a job you love, it will make going to work easier. Often people dream of this, but never make it happen. Often this starts with knowing what things interest you and that you are good at when you are young.  Changing your major in school is worth the extra effort if it gives you a career you won't hate. You may have to get a job you hate until you can find a job you love, but do not settle. Keep searching.


Live Below Your Means 

Spend less money than you make. This is hard. I have struggled with this, but it has great potential. The best time to apply this idea is if you get a pay raise, do not get a new house and new car immediately. Wait as long as possible before you increase your expenses.

Save money and Invest

If you do not spend all your income, then you will have some left over to save and invest. I wish I had started this earlier.  Your financial future is more important than you realize when you are young. Save and invest early!

Avoid Debt 

Debt has become vary normal to the American way of life. Do not be like everyone else. See debt as bad and dangerous. Pay for everything you can with real money, not debt. Debt can destroy you.


Read The Bible Daily

I read the bible daily, but I did not start doing it consistently until I was in my 30s. I wish I had started younger. A few minutes every morning with God in prayer and scripture really directs your mindset for the rest of the day.

 Understand What You Believe and How to Defend It

I wish I had studied the Christian faith more deeply earlier in life. Understanding the reasons for believing something is true really helps with confidence and your desire to share.  Christians should be on a quest to believe the most true things and the least false things as possible.

Know Who You Are

If your identity is in anything other than who you are as a follower of Jesus Christ, then you are in trouble when life gets shaken and everything is turned upside down.

Listen and Seek to Understand more Than you Speak

Listen more than you speak. Learn about other cultures and other perspectives. Do not speak into something until you have first learned much about it. After you become an expert on a topic, continue to approach people with less knowledge in humility.

Sunday, September 6, 2020

Marriage is Hard, Especially if you start one without being prepared!

Here are the topics I am going to cover:
  • Why get married at all?
  • Marriage is Hard
  • Unmet Expectations
  • Communication is Difficult
  • More Sacrifice Required Than Expected
  • Hurts, Habits, and Hangups
  • God's Design and tool for refinement.
  • Conclusion

 TL;DR:  Marriage is harder than you think. Do yourself a favor and don't get married, just because you found "The one". Get married because you have prepared yourself to be "The one" for your future spouse and they have done the same. Read the right books and take the right classes.  Only together with God can you and your future spouse start and maintain a healthy marriage. If you're already married you need to be putting in effort to build your marriage skills (books, videos, bible studies, counseling, classes, seminars, groups, etc...) at least monthly. Becoming and staying a relationally healthy marriage partner is a life long journey. There is no neutral. You move forward or backwards.


Why get married at all?

   If marriage is so hard, why get married? Many good things are hard. Often the harder it is, the better it is.

  • Shared difficulty creates stronger bonds
  • God's design for the family.
    • Children do better in two parent homes.
  • Having a committed companion to go through life with.
  • Couples married before kids have better economic outcomes than kids before marriage or unmarried. Link
  • Often your spouse is stronger in areas that you are weak.
  • A healthy marriage often forces us to grow and improve in ways our unmarried self would not.

Marriage is Hard

   Marriage is hard. Not pop quiz hard. Not final exam hard. Much more than that.  It is difficult to properly convey the difficulty of marriage to someone who has never been married.  I will attempt to convey some of this concept with a thought exercise:

    Imagine you have selected a partner for a major project. The project is a problem solving contest monitored by judges. You are allotted time to prepare. You decide to skip the preparation, because you are great at problem solving! The judges put you both into a room together, provide materials, and basic instructions.  They start a large timer on the wall, and tell you to begin.  At first things start going well.  You like the partner you have chosen, and following the instructions seem easy at first.  As time goes on you realize that your partner is not behaving as you expected. They are not following the instructions.  They don't seem to have the skills you thought they were bringing to the project.  You start to realize that their native language is not the same as yours. They only know a small amount of words in your language. Their interest in the project seems to swing wildly from intense passion to completely uninterested and you don't understand why. They seem to be undoing some of the steps you have already done for the project. You get frustrated and find yourself getting very angry at your partner. You confront them.  You find out that they have brought their own instructions with them. They have been following their own instructions, not the provided ones.  You are furious. You grab their instructions and compare them to the official instructions. You find they don't match-up much at all. You look closer, and realize that the official instructions don't look very familiar. You are confused. You put your hand in your back pocket and find a third set of instructions.... your instructions.  You haven't been following the official instructions either!  You look up at the timer on the wall.  You realize that you are way behind in your project and you aren't even sure how to start over properly, because your partner seems like an alien from another world who can't communicate with you. Also, you are considering throwing out the official instructions, because your instructions seem easier and more natural. 
The timer starts beeping loudly and the judges enter the room.  They inform you that you have failed the contest. You ask what place you ranked.  They say it doesn't matter, because most of the contestants also failed. You are caught off guard by this statement.  "What happened?" you ask. The judges tell you that most everyone skipped the preparation time and did not coordinate in advance with their partner to establish common skills, communication, or even a common direction. Then the judges tell you "It's OK. the failure rate is high, because this problem solving contest is unlike any other."

 This short illustration should help convey the difficulty of marriage, but it by no means properly conveys the complexity, depth, and multi-dimensional nature of marrital difficulties.

Unmet expectations

    Unmet expectations are one of the leading causes of marriage problems.  These expectations are developed in us by our families, movies, entertainment, friends, culture, and much more.  We have these expectations, but we don't normally know they exist until we are married and these expectations are not being met.  Many specific marriage problems fall into this broad category.  Often even when these expectations go unmet, we don't realize it right away.  We first have to ask ourselves deeper questions about why we are upset. Then we have to ask what is behind that feeling or thought. Then we repeat until we have gotten a few layers down into our own mind. Only then can we realize the unmet expectation and start asking our-self where the expectation came from and if it is reasonable.

Book:  Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman

Communication is Difficult

    Deep, meaningful communication is required for a healthy marriage, more than most every other area of life.  It is difficult to teach this skill, and life experiences often don't cut it.  Especially if you are young and you have not had very many life experiences.  On top of all that, remember that even if two people are equipped for the deep, meaningful communication that is required for marriage, they still have to speak the same language!  You might both be on the same page with the ideas and thoughts, but converting those ideas and thoughts into communication the other person understands is very hard!

(!) One area of communication that is critical is the ability to say "I love you." It is common to believe the misconception that everyone says and receives love the same way. Don't make that mistake! Read the book below instead.

Book:  The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman


More Sacrifice Required Than Expected

    A healthy marriage requires a lot more sacrifice than you think. Whatever you are thinking about sacrifice right now, multiply it by five.  Being a parent will double down on that. Starting a marriage and becoming a parent at the same time are not recommended.  Try getting married first, and then having children.  Turns out that following God's design for the family is a good idea.
    Marriage is about love and love is about putting others first. Not just some of the time. Constantly! Go read Corinthians 13 four times and then ask yourself if you are good at those things.  If the answer is no, then you may want to get some resources on dealing with those issues before you get married. If you are already married, start working on those issues now.  Don't wait.


Hurts, Habits, and Hang-ups

    Everyone has something about them that falls into the category of hurts, habits, or hang-ups.  Turns out humans are broken, sinful people and you are a human. Sometimes your hurts, habits, or hang-ups comes from within yourself, and sometimes it originates from an experience that another sinful human did to you.  Either way, these things do not heal themselves.  You are not strong enough to fix this yourself.  You need God, resources, and other people.  Deal with these issues sooner rather than later, or you'll look back at your life in 10 years and see a trail of pain, broken dreams, and damaged relationships.  Often the first step is the hardest and most important. Find a trusted friend and tell them what your problem is and ask for help.  I recommend a mature, Christian friend.  Hopefully you will find that the person you talk with understands because they are not perfect either.  It is OK to admit we are broken.

Note: there is a risk that the person you tell will respond badly and hurt you.  After the dust settles, try hard to not let that stop you from seeking another, more mature person to tell. The risk of not dealing with your problems is always worse than the pain of rejection.

God's Design and his tool for refinement

     God created marriage. He is the designer. The Bible is his guide book on how to operate life and marriage. If you choose not to apply the Bible to your marriage, do so at your own peril.  People tend to get marriage skills and marriage advice in all the wrong places.  If you want a strong marriage, put God at the center and follow Jesus with your whole heart. The health of your marriage will be directly proportional to the health of your relationship with Jesus Chris.
    Some people wonder why marriage isn't easier. Why did God make marriage so hard? Did he do that on purpose?  I believe God designed marriage as one of the primary tools he uses to shape the heart and soul of married Christians.  Without marriage I would be much more selfish, self-centered, thoughtless, unkind, unaware, impatient, and much more.  Your marriage is a special, challenging adventure where you, God, and your spouse can grow closer to each other.


    At this point I may have scared you off from getting married. That was not my intent.  Hopefully instead you will consider preparing yourself for marriage.  God has created marriage as a beautiful, amazing, confounding, challenging, mysterious, wonderful, gift.  Preparing yourself and selecting a spouse who has also prepared themselves for marriage has the ability to make your marriage a bright spot in your life.  Build your marriage on God, the one who designed marriage, and your marriage will be a blessing for generations.

Tuesday, April 28, 2020

Bible Archaeology: Camels and copper mines

These are good reads.

It seems that "new discovery disproves bible!" is a headline the world loves to print whenever they can stretch the truth that far.

King Solomon's Copper Mines?

Archaeology Confirms the Biblical Account of Camels

Monday, April 13, 2020

Is Jesus God? Did Jesus claim to be God? Only in the book of John?

How did Mark view Jesus: A good teacher or the Messiah?

(there are some suggested resources at the end of that article if you want more info)

Was Jesus a Real Person in History?

Here is an article from that covers two of the most well known extra-biblical sources for information on Jesus. It talks about the strengths and weaknesses or their work and makes mention to other extra-biblical sources:

Recommended Book: The Historical Jesus by Gary Habermas

Quote from the book:
“While most scholars today recognize that Jesus was a historical figure, there is a small group that still does not. Habermas reminds the reader that the popularity of a particular position does not provide legitimate evidence, in or of itself, for the historicity of Jesus, so this book will examine the evidence that has convinced the majority of scholars that the historical Jesus existed, and it will make the case that the historical Jesus is the Jesus of Christianity.”

Here is a review of the book on This review provides a book summary chapter by chapter:

If you like the topics mentioned in the review, then you should probably buy the book.

Amazon link for book:

This might be somewhat off topic, but this was an interesting read. This article covers biblical and extra-biblical evidence for the “darkness” mentioned during the death of Jesus.

This article overlaps with the articles above, but also mentioned a few other sources not mentioned in the other articles for more writers who mentioned Jesus.